show me a man who can sit with a woman in deep struggle and vulnerability and not try to fix it, but just hear her and be with her and hold space for it, I'll show you a guy who's done his work and a man who doesn't derive his power from controlling and fixing everything. Brene Brown
Many of us naturally want to fix things for others. We are problem solvers and we feel validated when we can assist someone or fix something for someone. But what most of us want is to be seen, heard and validated exactly as we are. The human spirit wants to be witnessed as it is. We want to be accepted and loved in our imperfections and pain. As we learn from Brene Brown, rarely does a response fix anything. What helps in tough and painful situations is connection. We connect with one another when we are seen and heard. When we are validated in our experience.
If we start to ask ourselves what it is we need when we seek to be vulnerable with others, we will start to recognize what others needs too. Holding space for someone is a skill to build. Holding space requires us to step back, be fully present, listen and connect (validate.) How would your life be different if you practice the pause, listened and empathize instead of trying to fix the problem?
Much love to everyone.
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Jamila has spent most of her life in Ontario. She traveled to Lebanon at least once and maintains contact with her family in Lebanon through the Internet, writing, and talking with family members through visual digital communication platform.
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Diane Farmer, 2017, in C.Ni Laoire et al. (eds.), Movement, Mobilities, and Journeys. Geographies of Children and Young People. ...
A white feather has come to symbolize "connection" for me. When I see a feather, it makes me think that a soul or angel is thinking about me and has my back.
Do you have a "sign" that you look for to be reminded of your connections...? ...